There is a fruit tree in that courtyard that each year delivers the same fruit and always tastes different, even every year, each fruit is unique. Its flavor, its texture, its freshness, is completely unique. It’s wonderful to discover the beauty of nature.
Perhaps the most balanced emotion we can feel is gratitude. Even when we feel gratitude we are aware as all emotions are related. That’s why it’s so hard to understand emotions.
Thanks are 4 ways of thinking:
I love you
I forgive you-I allow you
I see you-I accept you (honesty)
I’m here with you.
All the emotions we know arise from here and the perfect inner equilibrium that gives us the gratitude. I can even assure that all positive and constructive emotions develop as a root of gratitude.
Many believe that they arise in love, but when we look with objectivity we discover that much of the love that we feel is nothing but attachment, affection, necessity … the true compassionate love in our little human life arises from a deep feeling of humility and Gratitude.
When we thank you we love:
By thanking our hearts we open and experience the other with totality, we do not limit it, we do not censor it, we live it and respect it as it is. We feel it complete and beautiful as it is. We grow to see it in its entirety and we feel linked from love in this whole.
Pure gratitude does not require, respects, delivers, permits, accepts. It dissociates itself from any result, and so we experience love.
When we thank you we forgive:
A lot of things remain unresolved inside of us. It is about emotions and thoughts that we have had, many times unconsciously or involuntarily and have not been able to resolve at the time. For example, someone has hurt us and we have judged that person who harmed us, we have judged, criticized, censured. We have not been aware of the suffering within ourselves, so we have not faced it, but we have allowed that feeling to become frustration and frustration in emotions and unresolved judgments.
By acknowledging a situation or a person, directly resolve the conflicting emotions between the two, resolve all the grudges and manage to liberate ourselves from all that suffering that had inside us. Our vision is extended because we do not limit, judge, allow and accept, and this acceptance is pure and complete. So by thanking us we allow each thing to return to its place, including ourselves, recovering our inner equilibrium.
When we thank you we see:
If I had not appreciated the food at my table, I would not have seen clearly the importance of being able to eat. If I hadn’t been thankful for my life, I wouldn’t have been able to love and respect my parents. If I had not thanked my body, I would not have understood the importance of being here.
When we thank you, we immediately understand and accept life.
Our limitations are no longer limitations, but we see them, and we thank them for having them, so they become our greatest virtues. What in the past we believed to be limited, becomes through gratitude and the immediate acceptance that entails, in our greatest potential. Look at you. Observe every day that which less value, what you like, thanks to life for that, accept and discover how that you do not love, is most likely what makes you unique and what builds and gives meaning to everything else.
Some people hate a part of life, forgiving and thankfulness helps us to accept that part. Once accepted it is allowed, integrates. And once integrated what bothers us, is known and becomes our ally, in our greatest virtue. Which gives us better qualities and helps us to grow.
When we are grateful we are present:
True gratitude arises at the present moment. You are with all your being, with all your feeling, fully, breathing consciously. You focus and then the gratitude comes.
We are present smelling, savoring, seeing, touching, tasting, feeling, living, and then we appreciate. We cannot thank that which we have not lived, we appreciate when we become conscious, we thank with all our being.
True gratitude is an act completely transforming, liberating, is a feeling of instant joy. True gratitude we cannot force it but if we can work it, little by little, coming out of our selfish attitude.
Exercise to work Gratitude:
Every thought, emotion, action you make throughout the day arises as an answer to something you have experienced. In your life you may have greatly strengthened obedience, fear, judgment, etc. In the same way you have been able to strengthen positive and constructive emotions. Gratitude is not only a feeling, but also a way of thinking and an attitude that we can feed.
When you think in a selfish way there is frustration, that frustration produces more division. When you think in a positive way there is happiness and gratitude.
The work to strengthen gratitude is to gradually eliminate throughout your day-to-day all selfish thoughts. Get out of the limiting thought and stop punishing yourself in every action. Things come to you not because you deserve them, but because you attract them. With your thinking and your emotions you attract a kind of reality to your life, you attract experiences and people who strengthen your thoughts.
By thanking all those experiences that come to your life, thank the people, the air to breathe, the food, to thank not to something concrete but to life, then you free yourself of the anxiety and the self-punishment.
Start by thanking noon, every time you go to feed yourself, then thank you before you go to sleep.
An ancient teaching that we can discover in almost every culture is the blessing of the table and the prayers before bedtime. It is a powerful master key that will bring us protection, joy and strengthen all the good things that we already live. That key is gratitude.
Find out at what point in our culture that key has been lost. When people have ceased to bless or thank the food we take, at what point we lay down without thanking them for life. Meditate on you, when, at what point you do not want to thank anything or anyone, and notice your selfishness at that time. And just as you stop feeding a positive and friendly attitude to life, stop feeding your selfishness and share a feeling of gratitude to the people you love.
In this time the diaries of gratitude have multiplied in our bookshops. Is it that we have finally discovered the importance of thanking what is in our lives?