Our fear seems a bug that for centuries hid in the stomach without letting us breathe. He doesn’t seem like a good friend though at times he can help you be cautious.
Paralyzes, ages, makes you lie and move away from what can help you.
Fear shadows the light of the heart and does not let you be free.
We’re all afraid. Not even those who manage to overcome hard evidence of courage manage to end fear.
There are those who are afraid of what they do not see, others to loneliness, others may be afraid of losing control, authority or change. It’s natural to be afraid.
Just as it is natural to have anger, pain or sadness.
However, we often confuse fear with a true internal signal, we confuse fear with intuition. A sign, an alarming voice, a dream, and we already believe that intuition spoke to us through fear.
Yet there is fear, hidden. And if you don’t recognize him, you won’t be able to act before him.
When a person manages to separate you from others, he does it through your fear. It is enough that he has told you something, something that supposedly happened, or something that will happen, and the bug in you grows and generates enough fear for you to go away without looking for more meaning.
It is even possible that the one that helps you the most is fear: an enlightened teacher or teacher, a commitment, a committed work, a path of self-improvement. What helps you grow is very normal that generates fear. Possibly because when you act on it, fear warns you that the decision is important. If you listen properly to your fear, you will be able to act and make a decision from the peace, because you know where the obstacle is, without in you or outside of you. If you do not listen to fear possibly everything will collapse before time or fear will grow without you noticing.
But what happens when you’re afraid of what you love? Why do some people feel afraid of authentic relationships? For example of their relatives, their good friends or of those people who fall in love. So if you fail to understand how your fear is and overcome it, fear will try to move away generating reasons to leave you alone again.
Possibly the problem goes far beyond that. Already in childhood, in the first months of gestation and in the first months nothing more to be born, where the reflection of the first fears is formed in our mind.
If in the first months of gestation there was fear that nacieses, there was fear and doubt before the birth, even saw the possibility of abort, this fear will be taxed in the unconscious of the person who probably will fear before the love to life , sharing, the union, the warmth, the breathing … in the same way if in the first months of life, three or four, no more, the baby did not feel enough hugs, or the affection was surrounded by discussions and conflicts, this situation will be equally taxed and with The years the same person will also be able to generate a fear in relationships. Away from those who love will feel that they will not suffer. The doubt grows and makes excuses in very different ways: that person does not act well and therefore I walk away, not going well dressed, think differently than me, is different from me … but are excuses that we put before love.
Love does not arise from the perfection of relationships, but exactly from the differences. It is the force that unites, not the one that separates.
Contrary to fear, the strength of love binds you to the truth.
When someone lives in fear he moves away from almost everything around him. It protects even those you love, protects you from energies you do not see or things that have not happened.
When someone lives in love, it radiates calm, trust, and faith embraces everything that comes close to life.
Who tries to fight, who enters into dark battles, who hides, who lies, in one way or another obscures the light of his heart with fear.
Who trusts, who talks, who seeks the truth within his heart, vibrates in love and opens to the light that from everything and everything arrives.
With this I do not say that it is bad protection, but it can be another reason of the ego acting through fear, to separate you from what surrounds you.
A beautiful way to act on what you think can harm you is by with the light of your heart. Do not channel for this a separate energy to you and the deliveries, but from your heart you listen and allow that that comes to you transform you like you transform everything around you.
When do we live more in fear? The farther away we are from the truth.
To dissolve fear is not necessary to return to its causes or to go to the past, but simply to look in you how it acts that fear. What your strategy is.
We’re beginning to be honest. Completely honest. In a relationship one says openly what it feels and thinks of itself and the other person. In a relationship where there is fear one shuts up. Perhaps you expect the other to be mistaken, or you think the other will never understand what you are going to say. Where there is sincerity is overcome arrogance and hypocrisy. Ours and the other person’s. When we are sincere we feel calm because there is nothing to hide.
It is possible that someone has been completely honest with you, has opened your heart, and yet you get angry with that person, you take off and the issues in some way, or judge, which is the same. It is a sign that that person, in his own way, overcame fear, yet you do not. That’s why you might turn away, because you want to see another reality, because you don’t want something completely honest and honest.
It can happen that the other person has opened his heart through lies, Deceits. Making you believe that it was what it was not, that exceeded your expectations or that through that friendship you would achieve everything you dreamed and eventually discovered that it was also all lies. Also this situation helps you to discover your fear: You expected, you wanted to make it wrong or that it was real. When you listen, when really from the heart you look at the other person, you do not expect to meet your expectations, but yours! Why is the other person going to be what you expect? Why is it going to be exactly for you? There’s the fear disguised as deceit.
“I heard him, but he wasn’t telling me the truth.” “I was at your side, however all were deceptions on your part” similar claims talk about your own self-deception. Listening to the other is not listening to what I have to say to you, but listening as we hear the river run. We do not want the river to be suitable for our life, that is wider or narrower, that its sound is higher or its water cleaner. Sitting before the river we just watch it, admire it and listen to it.
The river isn’t there for us. He’s not going to tell us the truth, he won’t show all his faces. It’s the river. It flows, it transforms. If it’s not what we want it to be, if it doesn’t suit our needs it’s never river problem but our problem we expect something from it.
Same in the other person. Listening to it you do not listen only what I have to say, or try to know all their faces, do not analyze, do not investigate. When you listen, when you look, you are present with your heart.
It happens just as sometimes we feel alone because in the around there is no one like us, and in a bubble of loneliness more and more we deviate from everything that comes to us. We’re alone. We feel completely secluded. We are terrified of our own loneliness from which we are not able to escape. We look for relationships as they come to us, we look for friendships where there are no, we seek even to seize motherhood and paternity to escape the horrible space of fear and loneliness that we have built. But fear continues there. in different ways. The basis of all that anguish, of this inexhaustible pursuit, is the fear before which we must learn to act before we continue to holding to situations and painful relationships that are based on fear and not in love.
Finally, although fear acquires many forms in relationships, I want to talk about fear disguised as pride. That person who feels superior, who separates from the rest because it underestimates life. Fear acquires a disguise of arrogance and after this mask we find a frightened boy or girl who does not know where to go. With fear of his loneliness, his independence and especially his deliverance, one dresses in power. A vulgar power that has no self-control. A fragile and limiting power. If we fail to see the fear behind this false power, pride will continue to grow us the rest, US situations of false autoconfor where our own lies will help us to believe that we are right. “I’m better alone than with this kind of people” “that person doesn’t deserve someone like me” “If you’re not this way I won’t be able to love you”
Fear will seek the strategy of continuing to have power. The control.
It feeds thus of sadness, punishment, judgments …
Loneliness is an indispensable medicine to be happy in life. Not a constant loneliness but that any moment of loneliness, even in group, is lived from enrichment and freedom.