When times get tough it is important to become aware of the steps we take. Not just to watch all the aspects that surround us, but beyond that, the reason for every decision. Sometimes we think we have the answer, but beyond the reasons we usually have, there are often more unconscious reasons that are hidden behind each of the decisions we make.
Many times for example arise enmity of alleged problems in friendship and after our observation we can find envy or unrecognized grudge.
Of course we don’t know everything, much less. And you have to arm yourself with courage to open your eyes and want to discover the truth. You have to have the courage to listen to the other with your truth and rethink all our beliefs.
A courageous person changes his mind, recognizes that he knows nothing, is honest and profound in his self observation.
In our society we admire more people who have achieved great material things or fame. We let ourselves be carried away by the titles, the merits, which are of no use in the true search and nothing really says about the person and its coherence and honesty.
For example, almost everyone believes in doctors, when a person recognizes himself as a Doctor … everyone listen carefully to what he has to say. However you can be a doctor of many things or anything, even having the title. And even a good doctor in your profession does not have to be a good person, or honest, or to be right. Just having passed a series of exams and subjects that little or nothing say about the real experience of life.
In complicated times the important thing is to have the courage to open your eyes and find out where the error is in ourselves. What we can do about the situation and how to change our path or accept what comes in case there is no possibility of change.
We stop valuing everything we believe and sincerely look towards our lives. Without believing anything or anyone special.
Only by defeating ego one becomes an authentic and committed person to life.
To defeat your ego you must abandon the attachment to fame, you must abandon the need for recognition, the merits acquired, the need for comparison, the fear of failure and the need to be right or do well. By defeating the ego one begins anew without prejudice, without hypocrisy and with courage.
This, in difficult times, whether it be family, personal or professional situations, is necessary to achieve a major change.
We can copy the decisions that others have made. When we are stuck in our way, when we fail to liberate ourselves completely from our limiting beliefs and find no ideas or the new way forward, then look for a person you admire and Imítala. Imítala aware of what you are doing and why, and hopefully this action will show you the way so that tomorrow you can do yourself without having to follow the tracks of others.
So we imitate beliefs, ideologies, ways of communicating, ideas and projects, and even ways of dressing, not bad. It is not so bad to do so, as long as we are honest and understand that this following the value of another original person arises from our lack of honesty with ourselves and the lack of our own volition. And so, little by little, we will be able to develop this originality and path to entrepreneurship and autonomy without having to imitate other people in the future. But if when we imitate others, lacking in all originality, we are not honest, tomorrow there will be no change, tomorrow, if we are stuck and we find no one to imitate, we won’t know how to make changes in our lives.
The steps would be simple: to observe how the situation is and to detail our attitude and aptitude in the current situation and a possible change. It is very well to note that a change is necessary but often we are not prepared mentally, emotionally or physically for a change. We therefore value not only the situation and the attitude we have but the real skills and resources to be able to change the situation. And if this change is not really possible, we see how to change our attitude and reorganize the problematic situation without making any external changes, but only internal change.
Then, when we have seen the situation clearly we embark on the journey towards a new idea, a new purpose more suitable for ourselves. And it is good to dream, but above all you have to be courageous to face the limitations present and to lead us to a feasible future. This means that even having great dreams we started at the base and gradually ascended.
When a person has just taken the card and is learning to drive is not buying a big car, but an economic car, small, manageable, as it is very likely that the car is hurt with acceleration, decelerones, lot mal … and gradually we learn to Driving and taking confidence in our lives, until one day, fruit of our personal effort, we will have a vehicle more adapted to our future needs. Some people start buying a car very good and very expensive just have the card, but we all know that is a bad idea. And all, when we see an 18-year-old or 14-year-old with a big car, we realize the mistake and the possibilities that the vehicle has to end badly.
In the same way it is in the companies, in the relations, and even in the maternity and the paternity. All personal self-improvement is the result of a long time work and an honest recognition of our capacities and our real resources. The brave person who embarks on a path to his overcoming, must be very arrogant or unconscious to start the house by the roof.
In hard times, of course it’s beautiful to dream, but let’s start at the base. The basis of problems, the basis of our pain, our fear, and even the emotional basis of our need for change.
By analyzing in detail we can continue the path understanding that we advance step by step, conscious, heading to the goal. Not only have we spotted the direction and the trajectory but alert, and with a clean heart, we head towards it.
Many of us fall into the trap of not seeing the real direction of our life project, and how sad it is when after years of progress we realize that it was not the right direction, that we were not happy or that that direction led us to a health problem , or a relationship problem. Misguided ideas lead us wrong. And it does not mean this more than we did not realize the direction and yet we did see the way and we did the steps. On large tax tours. For example almost all the relationships or actions that we take almost by compromise and by tradition, we do not see the direction, we do not see where we are going, however our beliefs propel us with force by that way almost without thinking carrying the consequences much more Go ahead.
If this was your problem, if your address was wrong and you headed for years on a road that you fed that did not make you happy and did not help you, then avoid imitating the path of others and learn to listen within you.
Many times we see the direction we want to take, we can walk, but we find no way to move forward. Powerless we look at our dream as it moves away every day more. In these cases one feels trapped in his life and does nothing, because he does not find a way to address the goal. It’s here when we can mimic someone’s footsteps. Surely they will not serve us because the way of life does not exist and the steps are unique for each person, but at first see what the other did to get the change and learn from its steps, will help us get out of impotence and frustration and gradually find the Strength to go on alone.
There is also the situation in which seeing the direction, and seeing the path to be taken, one is paralyzed and nothing does. Perhaps his belief taught him that if he stays still everything happens magically. Perhaps as a child everything was done and for nothing had to strive. However if we want a change now we must learn to strive. Learning to change the “I Can’t” by “I can and I’m doing it.” We start the way always, always, valuing each other’s efforts. Otherwise it’s not possible. Many seem to achieve great things without valuing the effort of others. Belittling the other. They may try to charge for more, they may be successful on the basis of other people’s work, or they may even not value their family and use it for their own well-being. But this type of triumph is transient and soon collapses when the person understands that the base was wrong.
And we also have to be honest when we realize that we are not recognizing the external effort, whether physical, emotional or mental. Whether there is a contempt for his age, his sex or his physical form or we just don’t care at all about the effort that the other makes to achieve what he has in life. It all comes with effort. Even the “no action” in the spiritual path is an effort of years of stillness, silence, respect and meditation that we must learn to cherish.
The effort, together with honesty and courage, will lead us to a conscious change.
We learn tricks, external forms. We learn in life that with little we can achieve much. There is nothing more to see that we live in a society where speculation or trying to profit from almost everything is common. Perhaps years of competitive and behavioral education will lead to this kind of behavior and social belief, however oneself can choose whether to continue with it or learn and redirect its path.
Competition does not lead to the development of humanity, much less, we have been able to learn that a competitive system leads to the economic and social triumph of a few in favor of many others, so that 1% of the population has 99% of the world’s wealth. Are we going to learn from it or do we continue to try to be competitive to become part of this 1% of the population?
Here the honesty of each one at what point do you want to achieve results in life? Or what’s your address? Remember if you can make all your decisions drastically affect what surrounds you. In a constructive or destructive way. And it’s your decision to act in one way or another.
Difficult situations help us to understand at what point we are. What we are giving value or what we entertained for so long.